Reader’s Issue: I am always feeling angry, ready to explode, and have had strong emotional outbursts.
Janet,
Lately, I feel tears welling up in my eyes from emotion and then anger at feeling overwhelmed. I am frightened to feel so out of control and not know by what.
Sometimes it makes me want to go crawl back into bed and pull the covers up and run away, other times I have chatter running through my mind trying to figure out what is causing such discomfort and anger.
Jenny
Response:
It is natural to have a emotional responses to stressful and upsetting experiences. Each person has a dominant emotional response (hurt, sadness, overwhelmed, and anger) which they use for most events.
So while one person may go through life feeling deeply hurt by unpleasant situations, another may feel angered by unpleasant situations. Therefore anger is not the topic, but rather an emotional response to something.
The person who has anger as their emotional response to stressful events has been filling their emotional storage bin with anger from a young age, and as it becomes full their emotional outbursts become more frequent.
They also live with many unpleasant life repercussions because they regularly feeling angry and resentful. They don’t trust, distance themselves from people, and can find relationships difficult.
The thing they don’t realize is that the exceptionally strong anger they feel today at a relatively small event, is because this event is triggering a past emotional wound in which they hid their hurt by refusing to let those who hurt them know this fact. They used the strength of anger to hide their feelings behind.
Their anger is actually covering up their hurt.
Situations that make them angry, are actually situations that hurt their feelings. Not being acknowledged, valued, respected, treated well, listened to are just a couple of examples.
Each one relates back to a childhood event that is waiting to be resolved, just as Jenny’s was. These anger triggers are our mind’s way of highlighting the opportunity to finish with an issue.
I met Jenny in a private chatroom where I talked her through a Greene’s Release session. Jenny opened to look at the real issue behind one particular anger situation and discovered that it was a need to hide her hurt feelings and was able to resolve, heal and release her hurt and need to hide her natural feelings.
The new beliefs Jenny told her inner child were beautiful to hear and now she understands her anger response and can go onto work through Heal Your Self to resolve and heal all of her anger issues.
You can read the comment she will be leaving below about the experience and outcome.
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3 Comments
January 26, 2009 at 3:25 pm
Janet,
Thank you for your patience in walking me through the release. While I had major difficulty with focus the first couple of trys the emotional clarity I gained was worth the persistance. Janet you were very patient in your tone and demeanor but stayed on track which led to the breakthrough.
Lashing out in anger has been my response to most everything as a protection mechanism for me. While I have tried other therapeutic approaches, the Greene’s Release, allowed ME to understand why I choose anger over other emotions. Especially those emotions that can be positive.
Now, I feel my joy and worth, calmly state my hurts and needs. I feel more responsible and actionable (in a positive manner) for my emotional state. Greene’s Release led me to understanding and compassion for myself.
Thank you Janet.
January 26, 2009 at 6:48 pm
Hi Jenny,
I am so glad that you understand and feel more in control of your emotional state. That is a wonderful beginning.
I wanted to clarify why you had difficulty with your focus initially.
Our session involved my acting as the director, to lead you to go into your own release experience because you hadn’t yet learned your own tools to do so.
Therefore, it was difficult for you to let yourself feel and focus initially because you hadn’t reawakened your natural abilities that are necessary to do releases.
But we got there and had a wonderful result.
This is why the early chapters in Heal Your Self & Heal Your Heart take the reader step by step through the process of awakening their innate abilities of feeling, thinking and rationalizing. Then by the time they reach the Greene’s Release Technique section, they are quite capable of directing their own release sessions, without the difficulties you experienced.
You experienced what is possible when you undertake the Greene’s Release Program, not how to do it.
August 7, 2009 at 11:23 pm
Hi,
Here is a link to our latest article on Anger.
http://greenesrelease.wordpress.com/2009/08/07/why-you-get-so-angry-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/