Reader’s Issue: I can’t control my anger.
Janet,
When I can’t control my feelings and the chatter in my head, all this anger comes out of nowhere and I lash out at people. Later I feel very sad and worry about the impact of my behavior.
I don’t like having a short fuse but it’s happening more and more often. I just get so angry and want to explode.
How can I stop behaving like this?
Becky
Response:
We store the emotion of every single life event. It is like all the pain and hurt and anger creates an inner bucket of pain. But when the bucket fills, the lid flies open at the slightest irritation and we explode in an emotional outburst without the ability to control it.
Many children go through hell, and then when they are all grown up wonder why they feel so angry. It is perfectly normal to be filled with hurt, anger and resentment when traumatic events have happened.
Note that a child’s perception of traumatic is very different to an adults perception of traumatic. So even people who did not suffer abuse or neglect can be filled with the pain of just growing up and experiencing life events.
This release was not related to individual topics or issues, instead about how we all eventually fill our bucket of pain, and then become ready to empty this stockpile so we can live without the impact of heartache.
I met Becky in a private chatroom where I talked her through a Greene’s Release session. Becky opened to discover her overflowing bucket of pain and emptied it out, piece by piece.
Now she will be able to think more clearly and not over react to current situations because of their connection to past ones.
You can read the comment she will be leaving below about the experience and outcome, and my comment and overview of this topic.
Anger resolution articles
CATEGORY: Why do I get so Angry? (10 articles)
You can
Begin to Resolve the Cause of your Anger Today!
Just like Becky did
with the
Greene’s Release Program Workbook
Note: The results you see here are typical of those achieved with Greene’s Release. If you would like to try a Greene’s Release Session click here
8 Comments
October 28, 2008 at 12:54 am
Hi Janet,
You couldn’t have put it better.
I felt angry all the time and it was taking a toll on me and my relationship. I realized I couldn’t go on like that any longer and hurt the people I love the most. I had to put a stop to it.
The greenesrelease session helped me empty the bucket of anger and pain I had in my heart. And this was all due to my upbringing and traumas I’d suffered.
Now, I feel more in control and lighter. The weight in my heart has been lifted and I don’t feel the awful anger I felt. I am confident that I can have a better handle on things and situations as they may arise due to the greenesrelease session we had.
Thank you.
January 19, 2009 at 9:35 pm
plz help me! my realationship is comeing to a end if i dont stop my anger…..
January 19, 2009 at 10:09 pm
Hi Nicola,
Please check your email.
Janet
July 20, 2009 at 7:44 pm
hi there, I am and have been angry at everything for a very long time and would like to know what is the best way to stop this terrible thing . thanks chefjeff
July 21, 2009 at 1:18 am
hi jeff,
Please check your email.
Janet
August 4, 2009 at 10:48 pm
Hi there, I need to know how can I realieve my anger, I have lots of stress with family issues, I’m not even close, they live in a different country and it affects me still, I get really frustrated, now I have problems with my stomach every time I get upset, it hurst and I get even more angry. Please help.
August 7, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Hi desperatesoul,
Sorry for the delay in responding, but I was finishing our latest article on Anger.
This article will tell you exactly ‘how’ to relieve your anger. If you have any questions, please ask and I will be happy to respond.
http://greenesrelease.wordpress.com/2009/08/07/why-you-get-so-angry-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/
November 23, 2009 at 5:46 am
I understand how you feel as I am going through it now. I grew up bottling up all my anger and all my feelings for over 18 years. My parents didn’t listen to me, the people who took care of me didn’t listen to me, and all I did was get beatings for my whole life. My brother used to suffocate me with a pillow, and I would tell my mother, but then she wouldn’t say anything. I asked my mother questions and she either wouldn’t answer me, or lash out on me and say she wished I was never born. I stayed silent for the most part, and for the longest time, I just didn’t know what to do with myself, or I did I just didn’t know who to tell because they all yelled at me or just didn’t listen. Now that I am bigger and stronger, and angry all the time, they listen to me, because they fear me. I didn’t want it that way, but that was the only way for me to talk to them, because that was the only thing they showed me. I honestly never wanted to be like this, but they treated me like I was worthless, and ignored me. The only thing I saw my parents as was a bank, because the only thing they gave me was money.